My husband and I have had a rough couple months. We got pregnant during our
recent honeymoon. Everything was going along fine; we were able to see the heartbeat at our doctor visits and everything. After
two months.... we lost the baby. According to the doctor, things weren't lining up genetically and it was natures way
of letting it go.
I'm not telling you for sympathy but to express my interest in knowing At What
Point Do Souls Enter the Body?
I feel like there is an entity out there that is trying to 'become' our child. My
husband is heart broken (as am I) but he feels we need to come up with 'new' names next time around because 'that' baby
didn't survive.
I feel differently..... the entity is still out there (the same one) but he/she
is just waiting for a 'perfect entrance'.
Anyhow, I'm getting kinda personal but I figured I'd throw it out there. Maybe VERONICA
can address this subject. I'm sure plenty of women and couples go through it.
-Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
You have not participated in a neglectful way, in other words
it wasn't your energy that caused this situation.
In a broad sense the energy coming in always waits until
it is appropriate to enter the form. It can vary by the relationship between the parents + child. There are no
set rules here. Every agreement has a different time signature. In your case it was the entry of the soul that
caused the difficulty.
This particular "child"/entity is one of great energy...
the attraction to the two of you decided way before the conception of the linear form. In its haste to arrive in your
union there was a miscalculation of vibration that the soul energy misunderstood. The form fell away but the energy
of this soul continues to hover about both of you. There will be another attempt.
This energy is bountiful in its integrity of energy.
It was a little hasty in its blending.
It doesn't care what you create as its label, it merely desires
connection with both of you. Yes there will be a second attempt very soon.
The energy is deciding how best to proceed.
You are suffering because of the misfire in connection and
because you are so focused in your present there is a sense of responsibility.
Understand that there will be connection--- and a dynamic
being will forever change this experience for all of you.
Fear not.
Next time there will be union.
Prepare yourself for intense connection for all three of you.
You won't have to wait long.
-VERONICA
Dear Veronica,
I am married to a wonderful man, but lately he has been getting on my nerves
so bad.
I love to be happy and I love being around people who make me laugh.
My husband is hard to play and joke with, he takes EVERYTHING seriously and being
with him is like being with a robot, no emotions , nothing.
Because of this I have no sex drive with him at all. It is like having sex with
a pillow or something, there is no romance, no creativity, nothing. It is starting to bring me down.
Ive tried everything, candles, music ideas of having a romantic picnic dinner etc...
But he is always too tired to do anything .
The other side of this , is that he always interrupts me when Im talking, tries
to finish my sentences for me and insists I mean it the way he is perceiving it. It than turns into an argument.
I feel sad, like I cant be myself around him, I cant open up and e honest because he may
take it wrong and usually if he doesn't like what I am saying he will blow me off or tell me he doesn't want to talk about
it, therefore there are many issues that have gone unresolved and now I feel resentment towards him and I just don't talk
to him anymore.
He also is a pck rat, has more junk piled up in the garage from floor to ceiling and in
our basement and just about every corner of the house. To me it reflects how he lets things build up as he procrastinates
everything or pretends that things are not happening.
With all of this, I am overwhelmed and just donut know how to deal with it. I love
him, but I don't like the contention and the clutter and the lack of intimacy.
Do you have any suggestions?
Lonely, desperate wife
Dear LDW,
Relationships are always a delicate balance of truth
with your partner and truth with yourself.
Your opening sentence about this wonderful man certainly
entertains the notion that there are redeeming qualities with this individual.
The path that you share through marriage is split over the
truth. Thus each of truthful communications between the two of you has left both of you on a singular lonely venture.
Think to a time when you were more enamored with the possibilities
instead of disappointments. Perhaps you thought he could change while he dreamed of your equal change of heart.
Resentment is a product of hopefully vision in relationships unfulfilled.
The only thing that will save both of you is the truth.
He is just as disillusioned as you are. Instead of expecting change of action, why not create a change of perspective?
Each of you asking the other to alter personal perspectives of something that irks both of you about the other. One
thing. Not so much when there is so much there that is overlooked through ego and anger.
Go to the place in time when you felt the first pangs of
attraction then recreate the scenarios that brought you together to begin with. The rest is all linear drama.
--VERONICA
Editor's note: The above letter to DEAR VERONICA was edited for length but not for content, and also to remove some
personally identifying information.
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